The Cardiffian and sexpert Alix Fox gives 5 top tips for starting BDSM in a relationship:
Sex Expert Alix Fox giving her class on BDSM
1. Communication is important.
If you and your beau want to experiment into the kinky world of BDSM then you have to make sure this is a path you both want to travel down. If only one of you want to start going down the road of floggers and handcuffs it is not going to work!
Sexpert Alix Fox Says: “The SCS rules are best for people wanting to go into BDSM: Safe, Consensual and Sane.”
If you follow Alix’s rules, you will find going into BDSM will be fun and safe!
2. Getting geared up
If you want to add some Ann Summers paraphernalia to your BDSM tool kit, then there is plenty of choice.
Floggers, paddles, handcuffs, crops and rope is all sold in your nearest Ann Summers store. All these can be used in a safe and fun way but you need to know both your partner’s and your limits. If you end up hurting them in a bad way, they will be less suggestible to taking part in BDSM again!
Ann Summers bondage gear
3. Sensory deprivation
Taking away one of your senses can heighten your other four. Using a blindfold or a scarf can take away sight. Blindfolds can be purchased from Ann Summers but a simple travel mask will suffice. The typical chocolate sauce and whipped cream used in movies relates to another great sense – taste. You can feed your partner when they are blindfolded and even crete a guessing game out of it. If you are feeling nice this is a fun way to get dessert!
Alix Fox says: “Sensory deprivation is a great way to have fun in the bedroom. It can allow you to excite your partner and if you have blindfold them too they won’t see you act like an idiot or trip over!”
4. Don’t aim too high
If you are only just getting into BDSM with your partner do not think that you can jump straight into Christian Grey mode. Being a beginner means that you are basically learning what is good and what is not. If you thrust a box containing hog ties or complex restraints it can put off some people. If you want to start introducing BDSM into your bedroom antics then try suggesting handcuffs or your partner holding your arms down.
Alix Fox says: “You can gradually progress, the important thing is that you are not hurting yourselves and causing damage!”
Ann Summers bondage products
5. You don’t have to look like you have come out of a Quentin Tarantino film
Not all of BDSM includes gimp masks and latex. Simple lingerie or even a bit of risky lingerie can do the job. You do not have to look like a scary dominatrix to engage in BDSM, after all this is based on trust and the point is not to induce fear in the partner you want to go on the BDSM journey with!
Alix Fox says: “Overall BDSM is a trust exercise between two people. you need to communicate, make sure both of you are okay and be prepared to stop if needed.”
Credit to Alix Fox
